不管是送件手工建造的礼品仍是送她最喜好的点心，一个小礼品能大大帮忙你们重拾昔日友谊。这招对那种之前就是你死党的人来说，特别有效。它会让朋侪打高兴扉，从而和你继续这份友谊。只别做得太偏激…

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When we get super-busy, some friendships fall by the wayside. But that doesn’t mean you can’t revive the relationship. Even if a lot of time has elapsed, it’s worth saving those nurturing friends who know you deep down and whom you can confide in and call in a crisis. Wanting to rekindle a friendship isn’t enough, though. You have to find a way to reconnect, which can be difficult after months or years of sporadic-or zero-contact. Here are the best first moves to make to get your friend back in your life.

咱们的糊口愈来愈繁忙，朋侪间的友谊垂垂变淡了，但这其实不代表友谊就此终止。即便已好久没接洽，也要留住那些真正和你心灵相通、关头时刻值得相信的益友。但是光想不做可没用。在久长不接洽、相互都已冷淡的环境下，你得冲破万难敌找出一个重拾接洽的法子。如下是给你的几点小建议，让你的老朋侪从新回到你的糊口中：

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1. Write Her a Facebook Message

去她的社交收集页面上留言

Getting in touch electronically is

one of the easiest ways to catch up. But what do you say in that first note? Start with some information about how busy you’ve been and then add in details about what you’ve been doing. Sharing updates about your life can encourage your friend to reply with the same openness. Once you’ve reconnected, make plans to see each other in person. You can’t substitute Facebook or other forms of social media for real relationships.

收集期间，用电子方法联结是最简洁不外的了。不外第一句该说甚么呢?说说本身近来很忙，并可以详细说说本身到底在忙些啥。由于自动分享本身的糊口能鼓动勉励你的朋侪也反馈一样的信息。一旦连系上后，可以约着出来见个面。究竟结果社交收集上的友谊其实不能代表真实的豪情。

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2. Reconnect Over a Favorite Pastime

找回昔日共处韶光

An activity that you

used to do together can rev up a stalled friendship. Since that drew you together in the past, it should reignite positive memories and bring you closer again Start by emailing your friend with a list of shared favorite activities and suggest doing one of those. Anything from going shopping to visiting that coffee shop you both love can rebuild your bond.

通太重温曾一块儿做过的事可以很好地重塑友谊。过往的履历会重燃你们夸姣的回想，并是以让人变得更加密切。不如给老朋侪发封邮件，列上一串之前曾一块儿做过的事，向TA建议再去做一次。只要能让你们重拾旧瓜葛，不管是外出购物、或去喜好的咖啡馆略坐，都很好。

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3. Send a Handwritten Card

寄张手写贺卡

A note in the mail can be a welcome surprise for a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. And there’s no need to wait until a holiday for an excuse to send it; a “just because” card can restart your relationship anytime. Women are busy and don’t want to feel that the friendship comes with too many strings attached. So avoid mentioning the past or specific dates when you’re available to meet up. Instead, leave the message open-ended, explaining that you’re available for lunch or drinks in the next couple of weeks, she says. And remind her of the best way to contact you.

对好久不接洽的朋侪来讲，一封突如其来的信绝对是个欣喜。并不是只有假期才能寄卡片，由于一张“问候卡”能当即拉近你们的瓜葛。女人身上的包袱很沉重，她们不喜好压力太大的友谊。是以，不要在卡片里跟对方约某月某日某时的详细碰头事项，而应当委婉地提出本身将来几周都有空、想约她出来吃顿饭或喝杯咖啡，并趁便附上本身的接洽方法。如许更好。

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4. Set a Phone Date

找时候煲德律风粥

Hearing a friend’s voice can be a great way to reconnect. But with hectic schedules, you may wind up playing phone tag for a while before you catch each other. That’s why it’s best to schedule a chat. Leave a voicemail with times you’re available. It may feel weird to call out of the blue, but people understand. Once you’ve got your friend on the phone, be sure to set up time for another phone date or an in-person meeting, she adds.

用真正的声音交换是极赞的好友接洽方法。不外人人都有本身的放置，德律风畅聊或许必要点命运。这就是为啥咱们建议你先预约一次“德律风谈天” 时候。给她留条语音信息，奉告她你何时有空。你可能会感觉劈头盖脸忽然邀约挺奇异的，但常人们都可以或许理解。只要你们德律风通了，那就赶快约下一次煲德律风粥的时候吧，面临面谈天也行。

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5. Do Something Unexpected and Kind

做件出其不料又布满温情的事

Whether it’s sending a handmade present or her favorite type of cookies, preparing a small surprise can go a long way in rekindling a friendship, especially with someone you once considered a good pal. This will open your friend’s heart to you, which will further the friendship. Just don’t go overboard with a nice gesture; mailing something affordable rather than showing up at your buddy’s doorstep is your best bet.

不管是送件手工建造的礼品仍是送她最喜好的点心，一个小礼品能大大帮忙你们重拾昔日友谊。这招对那种之前就是你死党的人来说，特别有效。它会让朋侪打高兴扉，从而和你继续这份友谊。只别做得太偏激就行，好比忽然呈现在TA家门口之类的……寄一个不太宝贵的小礼品是最佳的选择。

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6. Throw a Dinner Party

办一次晚宴派对

Chances are there’s more than one friend you’ve been meaning to catch up with, so inviting over a group can restart multiple friendships at once. Let your buddies know how much they mean to you with a girlfriend gratitude dinner. Consider inviting women who all know each other, such as a few former coworkers, to simplify planning and keep the dinner conversation flowing.

想同时和洽几个好友连结接洽?不如把她们都请抵家里来。举行一场“姐妹感恩晚饭”，这会让你的朋侪们大白她们对你来说是那末的首要。最佳约请那些相互都熟悉的人，好比前同事之类的，如许氛围从容恬静，列队天然能大获乐成。

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7. Invite Her Along to an Event

约请朋侪一块儿加入勾当

Have an extra ticket to a concert, party or book reading? Bringing your friend to a gathering can be more casual-and less intimidating-than meeting one on one. This takes the pressure off and lets both of you relax in a group environment. Rather than jumping into a serious discussion of why you drifted apart, you’ll be socializing with other people or enjoying some entertainment, which can make your reunion less awkward.

手头有张演唱会、派对或念书会过剩的票?带朋侪出去加入勾当，这会比零丁相约碰头要更轻松舒畅。如许能卸下你俩身上的负担，让你们完全放松在集团的空气中。与其面临面谈话时，冷不丁忽然跳到“当初我为啥冷淡你”之类的不舒畅话题，还不如跟大伙一块儿出去玩，这能让你们跟他人自由互动，从而减轻为难的情感。

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8. Try Out a New Experience

一块儿测验考试新履历

Creating fun memories together is a sure way to rekindle a friendship, says Chua. Email your friend about meeting up and suggest a list of activities you’ve been meaning to try for your get-together. Some ideas: playing paintball, going rock climbing, taking dance lessons and going trekking, says Chua. “This is a great way to learn new things about your friend and find fresh co妹妹onalities to bond over.”

一向制造欢畅回想，绝对可让你们重拾友谊。你可以给她写封邮件，提议一块儿去尝尝近来风行的新颖玩艺儿，好比彩弹实战、攀岩、跳舞课、负重徒步等等。这些新事物能让你领会到她的另外一面，并让你们再度找到相通的地方，从而规复交情。